How Parents Contribute to a Child's Personality

The part of the world, where I hail from, is strictly eastern. Here there is an extensive care and attention is given to a child's upbringing process. Positive traits are administered and negative habits are discouraged. But this is not how a child gets to create his moral fiber. The indirect influence of a parent's personality and the verbal instructions both have their parts to play in a child's life, whether accepted or not by most of our elders.

Let us take the example of a mother who tried to spend a few hours each day with her children, telling them stories from her own life and those from history and other references that she has had her hands to. After a few years, her children were well ahead of most other children of their age. It is because they knew the meaning of time and learning. However, she could not save them from careless and irresponsible behavior as far as their work lives were concerned a decade later. It is because the father figure demonstrated one such personality. He was for most part of his life, jobless. Above all, he would come home in the evening after his so-called, 'job hunt' and beat his children and scold his wife. He was never sparing time for his children and would never have a word about their progress in studies and other matters of life. They were the matter of concern for their mother. But it did not restrict the passive passing on of negative manners to the children.

There is the example of another father who overrated his love for his children. There came a time when the children went their own way, sure of their father's love. But without the proper instruction from their father, they were poor in studies and lacked ambition.

Another example is of parents who are not true to their partners. One such example led to children taking the same route as their parents. Parents who beat their children to instruct them do more harm to a child's person. They do not understand their children and as Newton's Third Law states, 'Every action has a reaction'; so these children lack understanding of their parents too. Moreover, they lack in confidence too, so much so that it is hard for them to take on simple challenges such as excelling in their work or getting good grades.

Children watch everything and catch every vague and clear signals alike. If you think that only words are enough, you are wrong. They are cleverer than you think and much more receptive than any adult individual. Instead of blaming them later, it is better you administer some very good attributes with much care and attention. Besides, everyone is capable of doing well, only if he has some depth of character and that comes from parents fundamentally and later on from other influences.


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