My Child Is Always Angry - What Can I Do?

How many times have you wondered why your child seems so upset? Does she seem to burst out in anger at a drop of a dime? You know it's more than just hormones but you are at a loss about what the cause can be. If you think you've thought of everything and nothing seems to be improving her mood, there may be a couple of things to look at more closely.

• The angry outbursts and behavior may be a coping mechanism to cover up the stress of peer pressure at school. When kids feel the pressure from friends but try to "stay cool" around them, it's only a matter of time before they explode. Where do they explode most often? Where they are most comfortable, which also equates to home, for many kids.

• Hormonal changes are real and should be dealt with accordingly. If your teenager is the one doing the angry outbursts, it may very well be due to hormones and definitely should not be handled from a negative stand-point. If you approach your changing child with criticism or irritation, you will most likely get that, and more, back. This is a time you really need to have compassion on your child. Remember, you were there once, and what was most helpful was having someone to listen. Maybe that's all your child needs now.

• If your son or daughter is really struggling with wanting to express their frustrations but feels unable to, due to trust issues or whatever the cause may be, you will definitely see anger. Think about it. You know when kids are at school they tend to act differently. They act as if everything is OK. They need to keep the "cool" persona going. They won't always bend their friend's ear to talk about something they feel is a real issue. Most importantly, if it's an issue where they need guidance, sometimes the last thing you want is another child who is the same age telling them what they should do. This is a good time to make sure your child knows they are free to express themselves and speak without being criticized.

• Sometimes children just need to speak to a counselor. As parents, we always feel that if we get to this point in the road, we have failed. That's not the case. Sometimes an outside person is the perfect person for your child to speak to, at least initially. The counselor will have no biased opinions and will be a listening ear. This can get the ball rolling for more productive communication between you and your child as they learn to open up.

These are a few ways to get you started in helping your child start to view his or her world differently. I'd love to be able to teach you how to do more!

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